How do we view other people? (July 2008)

It is so often that people who come to me privately or in class want to “help” their family members feel better, get happier and get healthier.
Sometimes this leads them into very murky, not fun areas!
So I’d like to convey some of the teachings that I have learned from Abraham, Eckhart Tolle and Science of Mind that have helped me so much in these areas.

The first idea is that people need rescuing. This so often comes from the ego: “I know what is best for them. I am better off than they are. I have the answers. I can’t be happy unless everyone around me acts like me. (And the ultimate delusion), I can fix them!”
Oh boy all of these will most certainly lead us down the wrong path!

One of the main philosophies of Science of Mind is that we do not look to appearances. This is reminiscent of what Jesus taught us in The Bible. I often tell the story of my beloved teacher, Dr. Frank Richelieu who was going into a hospital to visit with a man and when peeking in the door, he saw the man had his arms and legs in casts. Dr. Frank had to step out and “get his head together” about what he was perceiving. Our job is to look beyond the appearances and see only Perfection. When Dr. Frank was asked: “Do you go to visit the sick?” He always said: “No I go to visit the well!” This was so strongly impressed upon my mind in my younger years of training in Science of Mind.

So the important thing is that we view our friends, clients and family members as perfect and not needing rescuing. When people come to me either privately or for classes, I immediately ignore much of what they are telling me, demonstrating or manifesting. I view them as whole and complete. “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” says Dr. Wayne Dyer. It’s such a different and freeing approach to life. Can you imagine if I looked at everyone as a mess? We would have no miracles whatsoever!

When I took my last trip back East, it was such a revelation to really practice these principles. I had in the past viewed these people and not as well off as I was, for reasons of health, fitness, happiness, etc. On this past trip, I dropped all judgments entirely. I viewed my beloved 101 year young aunt in the nursing home as flourishing along with all the other people there. I did not judge according to what I thought should be going on with them. I did not view them as pathetic or in need of some sort of enlightenment. In fact, I viewed them and everyone else as enlightened. I also did not need for them to “be like me”, “be better and healthier”, etc. in order for me to feel happy. That one experience, I think was a peak experience for me in my life, to just drop all judgments of good and bad regarding people and their circumstances.

All this being said, I know it’s a lot easier to practice these principles from a distance than up close on a daily basis. But if you are faced with this daily, then consider yourself a master in training!

My dear friend Micheline always says the following: “Life is lot more fun when you don’t take anything seriously! “ I think that is best way to assimilate this little lesson.

Affirm often:
Life is a lot more fun when you don’t take anything seriously!

Sincerely,  Joni

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